Sea Change Council Blog: The Triad - Focus, Physiology & Language

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WEEK 03: The Triad – Focus, Physiology & Language

Good Morning,

Possibly the most important tool in our Successful Living Toolbox™ is the ability to control our emotions on a consistent basis. Our emotional states govern the quality of our lives and even more specifically how we feel in the “now” or act in any given moment.

We can allow our emotional states to ebb and flow, with the whim of the winds of chance and circumstance, or by riding our own delusions, or maybe steeped in the opinion of others: Or we can take emotional control of our lives by recognizing our own power to act upon the 3 major factors that govern how we feel.

First of all, recognizing and/or understanding that, how we feel at any given moment is a result of our mental FOCUS, brings us one step closer to understanding our current emotional state. If we truly want to change how we feel, it happens simply by identifying and then altering what our brains are consistently focused upon.

And make no mistake about it; our ability in any moment to decide and change what our minds are focused upon is a unique and powerful human ability.

“The human mind is fascinating….I mean we don’t have to fly south in the winter….If South doesn’t look too good, we can decide to go North” ~ Jim Rohn

Think of it in this way…your mind is like a camera*, and it’s constantly taking pictures, and the pictures you’re taking, the images you’re developing; dramatically affect the way you feel. Start taking the pictures that focus your life on the things you want to feel; on the places you want to go, instead of the things you don’t want to feel. Find the good in your life and point the camera at all the positive things happening around you. Since you’re the photographer you have a choice.

By controlling your focus, you control your feelings. Why not focus on what’s good in your life, what your grateful for and what you can do to make it better for someone else? Why not focus on the solution instead of the problem. Why not focus on what you really want to do and be and what you are truly capable of accomplishing? Why not? You’re going to get older anyway… and the time’s going to pass.

“Where focus goes, energy flows” ~ Tony Robbins

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The Second area, in which we have the ability to shift how we feel, or our emotional state, and thereby immediately improve the quality of our lives, is through our own Physiology. How we use our physical bodies dramatically affects how we feel.

We all can quite simply change how we MOVE and we’ll change how we FEEL!

Think about it…if I told you I had a friend that was extremely depressed, could you describe her? What is her posture like? How does she breathe? How does she move? What is she focused on or thinking about? My guess is that without even knowing her you could physically describe her because we all know how to create the emotion of depression. We all know the recipe for sadness. We all know how to use our own bodies to feel miserable and down. We also know how to physically create the recipes for joy, happiness and success even though often times we use them far less. We all know how to dance and we all know how to die and it’s up to us to decide which recipe we will use today?

You can’t feel depressed when you are smiling, it doesn’t work. Why? Because you are sending completely opposite signals to your brain, which can only process one signal at a time, and the physical act of smiling overwhelms the mental or emotionally based “weaker in the moment” state of depression.

I believe that successful people recognize clearly that – Motion Creates Emotion! They understand: How we use our bodies affects how we think; how we think affects how we feel; how we feel affects how we act; and how we act affects how we connect and/or respond to our world. Read that again!

Motion Creates Emotion – And there are tried and true Recipes for Success – In other words, there are specific actions you can take that will make you feel amazing, unstoppable, and absolutely vibrant. Why not adopt the Posture of Providence and explore the recipes for the emotions you want to experience?

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And finally, the Third arena to enact change or directly control our emotional states lies in our ability to clearly articulate or express ourselves, or more specifically: Our choice and use of Words.

Language is another powerful tool in the Successful Living Toolbox™ and our choices here can define not only our own futures, but also our public personas and what we consider “with-in the realm of possibility”.

We don’t have the time or space here for an in-depth discussion on this topic, so for now just consider a few of my favorite statements and quotes as an example, or food for thought this week on the power of WORDS:

“The word becomes the flesh” ~ Deepak Chopra

“Whether you say you can or you can’t, you’re right”

“Change your words and you change your life”

“Be impeccable with your words…for the words you choose, choose you” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

Many a man is held prisoner or prophet by his words…. ~ James Allen

Using the words, “I can’t, I won’t or I don’t know how” vs. “I can, I will or “I’ll figure it out somehow” will lead us to very different outcomes.

The Inuit who have roughly 80 different words for our word “Snow” – and thereby are able to articulate delicate and subtle differences that you and I can’t access with our limited vocabulary.

Why not add a few new words to your success vocabulary today. Like…. Unstoppable, Resourceful and Energetic!

Remember, our words can create and define our lives and our memories, let’s choose them wisely.

This Week’s Coach’s Challenge:

Try out the Triad. Practice changing your emotional states by

Flexing your power in each of these areas:

1. Focus = Think like a ______?_____(Winner)

2. Physiology = Move like a ______?_____(Athlete)

3. Language = Speak like a ______?_____(Scholar)

Until next week,

Teach Peace, Practice Tolerance and Promote Love ~ and feel free to pass these emails on Emoji